The Thrive Guide to Healing From Burnout

From Thrive

Four people who burned out share their strategies for moving forward and thriving again.

As talk of burnout — its signs and symptoms, its prevalence within different professionsgenerations, and walks of life — reaches a critical mass, a widening hole in media coverage is becoming impossible to ignore. We are gravely lacking in good examples of what thriving after burnout actually looks like.

Most people who burn out can’t just quit and move to a tropical island — they have to continue working and living their lives. But how? Even Buzzfeed‘s Anne Helen Petersen, the author of a recent viral essay on millennial burnout, concluded that after her own bout of burnout, “I don’t have a plan of action, other than to be more honest with myself about what I am and am not doing and why, and to try to disentangle myself from the idea that everything good is bad and everything bad is good,” she writes.

Two-thirds of the full-time American workforce suffers from burnout, the three main symptoms of which are exhaustion (mental and physical fatigue), a sense of being ineffective no matter how hard you’re working, and cynicism, according to experts. We at Thrive talk a lot about the importance of going upstream and making the changes (both individual and systemic) that will help prevent burnout in the first place. 

Read more here…

20 profoundly important things we learned from Winnie the Pooh

  1. Piglet: ’’How do you spell ’love’?’’ Pooh: ’’You don’t spell it…you feel it.’’
  2. ’You are braver than you believe. Stronger than you seem. And smarter than you think.’’
  3. ’The things that make me different are the things that make me.’’
  4. ’If the person you are talking to does not appear to be listening, be patient. It may simply be that he has a small piece of fluff in this ear.’’
  5. ’’If there ever comes a day when we can’t be together, keep me in your heart. I’ll stay there forever.’’
  6. ’’As soon as I saw you, I knew an adventure was going to happen.’’
  7. ’’Sometimes the smallest things take the most room in your heart.’’
  8. ’’Some people care too much. I think it’s called love.’’
  9. ’’Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day.’’
  10. ’’If you live to be a hundred, I want to live to be a hundred minus one day so I never have to live without you.’’
  11. ’Weeds are flowers, too, once you get to know them.’’
  12. ’’I think we dream so we don’t have to be apart for so long. If we’re in each other’s dreams, we can be together all the time.’’
  13. ’’You can’t stay in your corner of the Forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.’’
  14. ’’Promise me you’ll never forget me because if I thought you would, I’d never leave.’’
  15. ’’A little consideration, a little thought for others, makes all the difference.’’
  16. ’’A day without a friend is like a pot without a single drop of honey left inside.’’
  17. ’’Love is taking a few steps backward, maybe even more… to give way to the happiness of the person you love.’’
  18. ’’A day spent with you is my favourite day. So today is my new favourite day.’’
  19. ’’No one can be sad when they have a balloon!’’
  20. ’’How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.’’

 

9 musicians on How They Thrive Creatively Without Drugs or Booze

From GQ

 

Creating While Clean

Steven Tyler, Julien Baker, Ben Harper, Jason Isbell, Joe Walsh, and other sober musicians on how to thrive creatively without drugs or booze.

This is a story about sober musicians—about the life that has led them here, and about the life that they live now—but there is no single story here.

Some drank, some used drugs, some did more or less everything, and they did so to very different degrees. Some found themselves at the edge of the precipice, or worse; others simply re-routed from a path or trajectory that they came to see as unwise. Some were clean before the end of their teenage years; some only surfaced into sobriety much later in their lives. Some created the work that made them first or best known before they were sober; some have done so since. Some see significant correlations here; some don’t.

In the modern pop-culture tradition, being a musician has often come with a series of default lifestyle expectations, ones of indulgence and recklessness, larger-than-life living, and a diligent pursuit of altered forms of consciousness. Some see these expectations as having played a part in what happened to them, though most ultimately see their decisions and actions as also—if not mainly—a matter of their own psychology and personality and predisposition.

Some delight in a dark humor about their earlier excesses; others talk in a way that suggests that to dwell on these too much, to give such memories too much oxygen, would be to take too lightly something they simply can’t risk taking lightly. That it would be foolhardy or perilous to risk returning, even in thought, to a place where for all kinds of reasons they’d rather not linger. A corollary is that some are reluctant in this context to offer much detail about the particular substances that they consumed, or that consumed them, or both. (Readers may be aware that at other times, in different situations or at different stages of their recovery, some of these interviewees may have detailed further specifics about how they used to alter their body chemistry, but GQ is respecting what they have chosen to share in this particular circumstance and setting.)

Some hew closely to the language of recovery programs; some don’t. (Readers may also notice that some in the former category prefer to honor rigorously the “…anonymous” code of such programs by not even specifying them.) Some have relapsed along the way; some have not—but to varying extents they all remain aware and watchful of the possibility. Some clearly think that everyone would be better in the long run to live the way they currently live; others consider where they are now a personal solution for their own individual predicament that should not necessarily be prescriptive for others.

What they have in common is that they are all, by their own account, for now, living sober. And quite evidently they all strongly believe—whatever their varying reasons and circumstances and perspectives and challenges—that sobriety has made life better.

Read more here.

Why Depression Makes People So Tired

The Daily Flower

Quite a ways back, my wife texted me a picture she had taken of a flower. It was beautiful, and it made me smile in a time when smiles were pretty hard to come by.

A few days later, another text. Another flower. And another day and another flower. Each time, it was a little piece of happiness in what had become a very dark world for me.

And it continued. My wife would go out of her way, walking instead of taking the bus, to find different pretty flowers to share with me.

We went together to a local municipal rose garden, and spent a couple of hours taking pictures of roses.

A simple gesture, really. But a daily reminder that there is beauty out there. That someone cares enough to share it with me.

And now – we have a library of flowers to share with the world.

Join here and get a different flower sent to your own inbox every couple of days. And see the beauty. Smile at the thought. Feel a little bit of happiness that we are very pleased to share.

It’s free. It’s happy. It’s here: